Decision-Making for People on the Spiritual Path
When I was younger I would “grind out" decisions. Imagine that movie scene where our hero is standing in front of the mirror, fighting against himself - gathering his courage to pull the trigger.
“Make it happen. Nothing moves til’ you move. Get after it.” Phrases like that.
And yet all kinds of bad decision making come from that place. You make ultimatums. You make decisions based on pride or fear or avoidance. You’re at the mercy of all those thoughts swirling through your head - and not able to differentiate which ones are real or false.
But all that changes when you evolve.
Your Decision Making Process Changes With Spiritual Growth
Ask anyone who has gone through stages of spiritual evolution and you’ll hear them say it’s now much more difficult now to simply “grind out a decision.” Rather decisions are made from a place of connection, plugged into the very ether.
Perhaps you've noticed the same thing?
Here are 5 ways that your decision making process changes after progress on the spiritual growth.
1) It’s Less About “Deciding,” and More About Aligning
The further along you are on the spiritual path, the harder it is to act out of alignment. (Afterall, this is the fundamental premise of the concept of SINNING - the pain of acting out of alignment). The more conscious you are, the more painful it is.
Now, when you have a crossroads ahead of you, you FEEL the bodily degree of (a) “Yes!” alignment, or (b) “No” not-in-alignment that each path holds. You’re extremely sensitive to it. So decisions become less about “deciding” and more about listening, and choosing the path that is the most aligned.
2) Feeling Right Trumps Making Sense
There is a gut-level feeling of urgency vs. ease in every situation, and the world will show you time and time again that this inner compass is more accurate than “what makes sense.”
Often I miss an appointment and feel complete ease around it, only to discover that the meeting was going to be cancelled anyways or was unimportant. And on the flipside, something seemingly petty has a very strong sense of urgency to it, it turns out to have important consequences.
As you walk the spiritual path you toss the previous compass aside for the deeper, more accurate one.
3) You Start to Understand the Sacred Timing of Things
In your youth you were rash with your decisions. Yet now you give decisions a chance to breathe - you gift yourself with time to procrastinate (although you don’t see it as a bad thing). You intuit when things aren’t yet ripe, and you don’t force them early. You also know when things have reached ripeness and you don’t delay any longer.
Know that all decisions have a sacred ripeness to them, and attune yourself to that timing and act accordingly.
4) You Lose Control Over Certain Things
Where in the past you could have kicked down 10 doors to see what was behind them, today days 9 of those doors are blocked with solid concrete. For whatever reason, you’re locked out of the rabbit holes that don’t serve you and there’s nothing you can do about it.
(… But mountains move in the areas you’re meant to be.)
So you give up control over many things. You hand over the keys to something unknown and mysterious. You become less about controlling the world and more about bending yourself to the Tao.
5) You Stop Making Decisions So Damn Serious
The mystics say, let it go and it shall return. I say, even if it isn’t returned to you, who gives a fuck?
When you become steeped in the eternal each decision simply gives you a different experience. There is no wrong decision because wrong decisions give you the greatest wisdom. They clarify what the right decision is.
Our greatest strengths are born from times of disaster.
In other words, you can’t get it wrong. And you start to drop the heavy seriousness of life and decision making that we picked up off our parents and teachers and past generations. You start to choose more lightly. You start to choose more. You are willing to take more risks and accept the consequences.
Now I turn it over to you:
How has the decision making process changed over time for you?